Feed Yourself Before You Feed the Child

Every parent wants to raise godly, grounded children, but you can’t give what you don’t have. This post reminds parents that spiritual nourishment begins with you. Before you feed your child, make sure your own spirit is full. Your example becomes their foundation.

Discover a powerful lesson on godly parenting, why you must first be spiritually nourished before you can effectively nourish your children. Learn how your walk with God shapes the faith of your child.

I once visited a friend, and while I was in her house, her baby began to cry. At that moment, she was in the kitchen preparing food for herself.Out of concern, I asked, “Won’t you go and attend to your baby first?”

But she said something I didn’t understand at first:
“I have to eat first before I feed my baby.”

I kept reminding her because the baby was still crying, but she calmly replied,
“I’m not wicked to mty baby. I’m only trying to help myself, because without eating, I cannot feed my baby. The milk won’t come out if I haven’t eaten.”

That statement stayed with me. It taught me a big lesson.

Later, as I reflected, I realized something profound — God’s Word is also food.
The Bible says,

“Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God.” (Matthew 4:4)

An open Bible with light rays shining upward, forming the shape of a parent and child silhouet.

In the same way, a parent must be nourished with the Word of God before they can nourish their child spiritually.
You cannot give what you don’t have.
You must feed yourself before you can feed your child.

So the big question is: What have you been feeding on?
Because what you feed on determines what your child will eventually feed on.

The Bible says,

“Let the Word of Christ dwell in you richly.” (Colossians 3:16)


That means, as parents, we must let God’s Word fill our hearts daily. Parenting begins with personal growth.

Filling up a child is vital, but it starts with a parent who takes responsibility to be word-loaded.
Even if you’re not perfect or naturally godly, start somewhere. Let your children see you reading your Bible, praying, or speaking faith.
Even if it feels like you’re pretending at first, keep doing it. Because what they see, they will imitate.


A Personal Example

I remember when I was younger, my mom would pray almost every night. You’d see her burning the midnight candle, praying earnestly in the quiet hours. She never told me to do that. She never sat me down to instruct me, saying, “You have to pray.”
But guess what? I grew up loving it. I grew up doing what I saw her do.

Just like my father too, he loved reading the Bible quietly at night, using a small table lamp. He didn’t command me to do the same, but I found myself following in his footsteps.

They both fed themselves with the Word, and because of that, it was easy for me to be nourished.
They gave me what they already had, a living example of faith.

And that’s what parenting is all about.
That’s what godly parenting truly means.

Children learn more by what they see than by what they hear.
When parents feed on the Word, their children will naturally grow hungry for it too.

So remember:

  • A nourished parent raises a nourished child.
  • A Word-filled heart produces a Word-filled home.

Feed yourself, so you can feed your child.

Remain Ever Blessed.

Travailing in Prayer: Shaping Your Child’s Destiny Before Birth

Every destiny is first birthed in prayer before it manifests in life. Discover how to shape your child’s future through travailing prayer, declarations, and scriptural wisdom — using examples from Hannah, Manoah, Mary, and Jabez. Learn how your words and prayers can shape your child’s destiny even before birth.

The Labour Room of Destiny

Before a mother brings forth her child, she must enter the labour room — a place of groaning, pain, and perseverance. The process is never easy, yet it’s in that very travail that life emerges. In the same way, every godly parent must enter the spiritual labour room to birth the destiny of their children before they are even born.

Isaiah 26:17 paints this vivid image:

“As a woman with child is in pain and cries out in her pangs, so have we been in Your sight, O Lord.”

And Isaiah 66:7–8 declares:

“Before she travailed, she brought forth; before her pain came, she was delivered of a man child… for as soon as Zion travailed, she brought forth her children.”

These verses reveal a spiritual truth: destiny is first birthed in prayer before it manifests in reality.


The Power of Travailing Prayer

A glowing silhouette of a mother praying with her hands on her belly, with light forming the image of a baby

In the spiritual realm, prayer is not just a religious act — it is travailing, a groaning that shapes the future. Many parents prepare for the arrival of their babies by decorating nurseries or shopping for clothes. But how many prepare the spiritual environment their children will grow into?

Travailing prayer is the place where you create that atmosphere. It is the altar where destinies are shaped, where God’s plan for your child is aligned before their first cry.

Every parent has a divine mandate to stand in the gap — to birth, protect, and nurture the destinies of their children through intercession.


Biblical Examples of Travailing Parents

Biblical parents — Hannah praying in the temple, Manoah and his wife seeking God for Samson, and Mary pondering after angelic visitation.

Let’s look at some examples of parents who travailed before God for the destinies of their children:

Hannah travailed in prayer for Samuel (1 Samuel 1:10–11). Her prayers didn’t just bring forth a child — they birthed a prophet.

Manoah and his wife sought divine instruction on how to raise Samson before he was born (Judges 13:8). They understood that destiny requires guidance, not assumption.

Mary, after the angelic visitation, pondered those words in her heart and cooperated with God’s plan for Jesus (Luke 2:19).

Each of these examples reveals a pattern — destiny is not left to chance; it is birthed, nurtured, and protected in prayer.


The Tongue — The Pain or Power of Destiny

Proverbs 18:21 says:

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it shall eat the fruit thereof.”

Your tongue is a birthing tool. You either mold your child’s destiny on the altar of prayer — or you shape it through careless words.

Take the example of Jabez. His mother named him Jabez, saying, “Because I bore him in sorrow” (1 Chronicles 4:9). Her words became a limitation in his life — until Jabez himself reversed it through prayer:

“Oh that You would bless me indeed, and enlarge my coast…” (1 Chronicles 4:10).

This teaches us that even silence is not neutral — if you don’t speak life, you unconsciously allow negative forces to fill the vacuum.

Every time you pray over your unborn or living child, you are building a prophetic wall around their destiny. Every declaration you make — “You will fulfill purpose,” “You are a light to your generation,” “You will walk in wisdom and favor” — becomes a seed of destiny.


Practical Steps for Parents

 An African praying family in a peaceful room, Bible open, with a warm heavenly glow.

Here are simple ways to begin shaping your child’s destiny before birth and beyond:

  1. Pray with understanding. Use scripture as your foundation. (Jeremiah 1:5, Psalm 139:13–16).
  2. Declare life daily. Speak blessings into your child’s life — even while in the womb.
  3. Ask for divine guidance. Like Manoah, seek God for how to raise each child uniquely.
  4. Model what you pray. Your words and actions must agree.
  5. Be consistent. Travailing isn’t a one-time prayer — it’s a lifestyle of intercession and confession.

What words are shaping my child’s destiny today? Am I praying ahead of them or reacting behind them?


Closing Thought: Prayer, the Womb of Destiny

Travailing in prayer is not for mothers alone — it is for every parent, every guardian, every believer entrusted with the life of another soul. The womb of destiny opens on the altar of prayer.

You have the power to shape your child’s path before they take their first breath. Don’t wait for trouble to arise; create their future in the Spirit through prayer, confession, and alignment with God’s Word.


A Call to Salvation

The first step to godly parenting is becoming a child of God yourself. You cannot guide a destiny you haven’t surrendered to the Creator of destinies.

Jesus is the Word (John 1:1–5), the Rod of Correction (Isaiah 11:1), and the Great Shepherd who leads us in the way we should go (Psalm 23:1–3).
Let Him be the Shepherd of your life today.

Say this prayer:

“Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I believe You died for me and rose again. I confess You as my Lord and Saviour. Come into my heart, forgive my sins, and make me a child of God. Help me to walk in Your will and raise my children in Your way. Amen.”


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Godly Parenting in an Ungodly Age: Raising Children Who Shine for Christ

Discover how to raise godly children in today’s ungodly culture. Learn biblical principles for parenting with purpose, prayer, and prophetic vision.


“But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” – Joshua 24:15 (KJV)
“…in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world;” – Philippians 2:15 (KJV)

Parenting in today’s culture feels like swimming upstream. Wrong is celebrated as right, biblical truth is dismissed as hate, and godliness is mocked at every turn. The digital age is full of distractions, while society normalizes sin and ridicules God’s Word.

Yet God has not changed His standard. He still calls parents to raise children who will stand as lights in a dark world.

This is the time to parent purposefully, prophetically, and prayerfully—not passively.

1. God’s Mandate for Parenting Hasn’t Changed

Parenting trends may shift, but God’s Word is unchanging.

“And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children…” – Deuteronomy 6:6–7

Biblical parenting means consistently training children in righteousness, no matter what culture promotes.

2. Why This Generation Feels So Ungodly

The Bible warns us in 2 Timothy 3:1–5 that in the last days, people would be “lovers of themselves, disobedient to parents, lovers of pleasure more than lovers of God.”

Today, we see this through:

– Moral relativism (“your truth” vs. God’s truth)

– Sexual confusion and perversion

– Rebellion against authority

– Addiction to technology and social media

– Entertainment that mocks righteousness

– Anti-family ideologies

Just like Noah, parents today are called to build “arks” of preservation for their children (Genesis 6:9, 18).

3. Biblical Keys to Godly Parenting

 – Be a Living Example

Children imitate what they see. Let them see you walk with God daily.

“Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ.” – 1 Corinthians 11:1

 – Build a Word-Based Home

Let God’s Word—not culture—be your parenting guide. Daily devotionals and family Bible study help children grow in purity and strength (Joshua 1:8, Psalm 119:9).

 – Prioritize Prayer and God’s Presence

Make prayer a natural part of family life. Show children that God comes first in your home.

 – Guard Their Gates

Be intentional about what they watch, listen to, and absorb.“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” – Proverbs 4:23

 – Train, Don’t Just Entertain

Discipline is love in action. Don’t raise children to be “happy now” but empty tomorrow. (Proverbs 29:15; Hebrews 12:6–11)

 – Pray Prophetic Prayers Over Them

Speak life into your children daily:

“You are God’s child.”

“You will fulfill your destiny.”

“You are light in the darkness.”

4. See Your Children as God’s Weapons

You are not just raising kids—you are raising God’s end-time soldiers, reformers, prophets, and kingdom leaders.“Thou art my battle axe and weapons of war…” – Jeremiah 51:20

“Thou art my battle axe and weapons of war…” – Jeremiah 51:20

Like Moses’ parents, see your child as “no ordinary child” (Hebrews 11:23).

A Prayer for Parents

Lord, thank You for the privilege of raising children in this generation. Grant us wisdom, boldness, and discernment to disciple our homes in righteousness. Help us guard and guide our children so they shine as lights in this dark world. May we leave behind a godly legacy for generations to come. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Key Scriptures on Parenting

  • Joshua 24:15 – As for me and my house
  • Deuteronomy 6:6–7 – Teach them diligently
  • Proverbs 22:6 – Train up a child
  • 2 Timothy 3:1–5 – Last days ungodliness
  • Genesis 6:18 – God’s covenant with families
  • Proverbs 4:23 – Guard your heart
  • Hebrews 12:6–11 – Godly discipline
  • Jeremiah 51:20 – Children as God’s weapons

Final Word

Godly parenting is more than survival—it’s about raising children who will overcome and transform this ungodly age. Parent with vision, prayer, and the Word of God, and your children will shine as lights in a dark generation.

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Jesus is Lord

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